Do you blame yourself for making wrong decisions in the past? Remember two things: (1) Everybody makes mistakes, and (2) to make a decision in the present and to make a judgment in hindsight are two very different things. It is easy to criticize a decision when you are under a new set of circumstances.
Relationship fear and troubles, such as a divorce or a broken relationship, are issues of the heart. In these cases, the heart prevails over intelligence. The unfortunate truth is that all relationships are temporary, no matter how deeply you are attached.
We judge persons or events as good or bad, acceptable or unacceptable, or in terms of likes or dislikes. Our judgments are limited by our own limited knowledge of the events, persons, or anticipated future impacts. This makes these judgments imperfect.